by Katie Roberts on October 24th, 2011
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The first thing to know about living in mainland Alaska is that weddings can be.... interesting. They challenge you to be creative with your problem solutions. Not only is everything pricey (yes, even more pricey than awedding in the Lower 48!), but if you're not in or near Anchorage planning a wedding is going to be much different than any other wedding you can plan.
Rachael's wedding is such a good example of this. First, we had a small budget to work with. Second, we had to be creative with our resources. Third, it took a lot of elbow grease... me and a faithful band of friends became everything normal vendors are for "normal" weddings. Third, we were a good 2 hours from civilization in a very beautiful location... which means no last-minute runs to the store because we forgot something.
Flowers are one of the most expensive things in planning a wedding. When the bride talked to a florist, she got an estimate for her modest flower needs of $800.
"Does that sound reasonable?" she asked me. I answered her with a resounding NO!!! Not for what she wanted and not with her budget! So instead, we found a flower warehouse in Anchorage that let us look around, see what we wanted, and price it out.
For all her flowers (and a bit more than what she asked of the florist), we got all the flowers we could possibly want for under $150. We found some instructions online on how to make your own bouquets, and our little band of faithfuls put together some very beautiful arrangements.
We decorated the aisles with pretty bouquets of baby's breathe tied with rafia, and each bundle held a handmade pinwheel.
Armed with flower tape, corsage pins, and ribbon that we bought at Wal-Mart, we made our own bridal party bouquets (and bouttonieres, but there was no good pictures of those).
Since the bride wanted a whimsical theme, including vintage books, pinwheels, and wildflowers, I designed the programs like mini books from scrapbook paper and ribbon. Pictured below is the cover page. The next page was the order of the wedding, and the last page had a list of wedding participants and thank you's from the bride and groom.
July is the perfect time for wildflowers in Alaska. We sent the guys outside the church to pick as many daisies and Queen Anne's Lace as they could possibly carry for the reception tables.
We put them in Mason jars adorned with raffia and, of course, a navy or silver pinwheel. The bride depleted her book collection and even checked out a few from her local library to set on the tables. We added a couple votives and used squares of navy fabric to make the decoration pop off the table tableclothes.
Finally, since there was no room and no desire for dancing in this intimate wedding group, we printed off some wedding-related games (like the ones you play at bridal showers) and gave every guest a freshly sharpened pencil to finish off the whimsical effect. All around the room, everyone was having a great time trying to figure out the word scrambles. It was especially helpful when wedding formals were beign taken!
Well, there you have it! That's how we managed to pull off a gorgeous DIY Alaskan wedding without a hitch and without putting the newlyweds kneehigh in debt.
by Victoria Kelly on October 24th, 2011
We’ve been asked by a number of our brides about this concept of veganism and vegetarianism. With the increasing number of health and environmentally conscious people in our country, it has been more and more important to consider your options for catering on your wedding day. In order to clear up your questions and give you some clarity on the topic, we thought it best to do some research for you. Check out what some popular websites are saying about it!
Many of us get a bit confused between vegans and vegetarians, especially since the terms also appear to be close to each other. To get your perspective right about these two groups, you have to keep in mind that a vegetarian is someone who has made some choices about the food to be consumed. On the other hand veganism goes beyond the type of food choices one makes; it is a choice of a specific type of lifestyle.While a vegetarian by choice can decide on the food preference due to health reasons or concern about animal life, a vegan believes in the philosophy of not only giving up foods of animal origin but they also refrain from using any product which could have used an animal by-product during its manufacture or processing like eating honey, wearing fur, wool, silk or leather. (http://www.becomevegetarian.org/)
The difference between a vegan and a vegetarian is that vegans eliminate all animal products from their diet, including dairy and eggs. Those following a vegan lifestyle generally do not wear leather and avoid products made from animals such as wool, silk and down. Vegans' tremendous compassion for animals is an abiding, overriding conviction in their lives.
Vegetarians do not eat meat, fish or poultry but they tend to consume dairy products and eggs. Lacto-vegetarians consume dairy products but not eggs, ovo-vegetarians eat eggs but not dairy products and lacto-ovo-vegetarians eat eggs as well as dairy products. Vegetarians also do not eat products that contain gelatine or other meat-based products.
The vegan point of view is that animals are not here to be exploited by man, and that commercialization of animals necessarily involves a fundamental, inhumane component and lack of respect for basic life. (http://www.diffen.com/)
Vegan vs. vegetarian: why do people choose one over the other? The answer perhaps lay in one’s level of motivation and the sense of values. While all of us hear repeatedly how our eating habits are bringing unprecedented damage to the environment and how our consumption pattern over the centuries have put several animal and bird species on the verge of extinction, not all of us get moved equally by such truths. Some people decide to rise to the cause and take some action in their personal consumption habits in the belief that it takes tiny drops to create the ocean.(http://www.becomevegetarian.org/)
Feel free to check out the book “Eating for Energy” by Yuri Elkhaim for more information. There are also tons of great websites you can check out to find out more about veganism and vegetarianism, such as humanespot.org or even www.vegetarianvegan.com. Enjoy!
by Sandy Cook on October 20th, 2011
As you prepare for your wedding, saving a little money here and there can make all the difference in the world. Finding cheap wedding stuff is a reality that millions of couples are discovering, and something that you can boast about to your friends and family, if you're so inclined. Consider some of the places where you can find great hurricane lamps, Christmas lights, vases, dishes, decor items, etc. for a great deal. There's no reason to need to go to Micheal's, Hobby Lobby, or Wal-Mart for some of these items when you can hit wonderful places like garage sales, thift stores and consignments shops instead.
Garage SalesI don't know about you but who doesn't like a good garage sale, finding those special treasures for dollars or even pennies. This is a really great place to pick up cheap wedding stuff. Veils, tuxes, shoes, and many other items can often be found right around the corner from your house at an estate sale or garage sale. Estate sales sometimes have ridiculously high prices, but if you go the last day of the event, you can often get things at more than half off!
Why not save a ton of money on those items that you find for your special day, old vases, colorful jars, mason jars, votive candles, even bird cages, be creative. With today's economy, creativity is key in keeping you within your wedding budget. Vintage, eclectic weddings are a hot trend today and there are probably vintage stores popping up all over your city. Visit them frequently, because they are constantly restocking new (old) items periodically throughout the month. You might even find that perfect vintage wedding dress or even bridesmaid dresses. Bridesmaid's dresses no longer have to be the same in style and color. Again, be creative! Since most brides have the luxury of planning their wedding 1 or even 2 years in advance, this gives you plenty of time to hit those garage sales and vintage stores.
Thrift StoresDon't knock the thrift stores and Goodwill centers as places where you can pick up everything from wedding gowns to punch bowls and service wear. These stores have tons of wonderful fashions and supplemental wedding supplies at very cheap prices. Many rich people have given up their wedding gowns and bridesmaid's dresses to thrift stores, allowing those who want to save some money to take advantage of the savings.
Consignment Stores Like thrift stores, consignment stores sometimes carry wedding clothes and other items at a tremendous discount.These stores have strict policies for cleanliness and usually only carry very nice things.Still, you can find cheap, yet attractive, wedding stuff as such stores. This would be a great way to involve your future husband as well. Check out
www.essortment.com for some unusual places to find great wedding stuff!
Whether you're working on a budget for your wedding or not, it's completely possible to have the wedding you've always wanted for less than you can imagine. Don't hesitate to take advantage of all the options out there for inexpensive wedding decor for your wedding! And remember, have FUN!
by Victoria Kelly on October 17th, 2011
Today seems like a good day to take a page out of one of my favorite books "The Worn Out Woman' by Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray.
Have you ever felt that even though you're taking things "one day at a time" . . . it's about twenty-four more hours than you can take? Don't panic! There is hope for the worn-out woman, but you have to take action. You have to do something.
Have you ever felt that even though you're taking things "one day at a time" . . . it's about twenty-four more hours than you can take? Don't panic! There is hope for the worn-out woman, but you have to take action. You have to do something.
The sad truth is that problems in our lives rarely get better by themselves. If you get a sliver in your thumb and ignore it, what happens? I suppose there's a slight chance that the sliver will work it's way out, but more likely the thumb will get infected. It turns red and hurts. In time it swells and throbs. The infection spreads, and if left untreated it even has the potential to kill you. But if you take the time to remove the slinter and perhaps apply an antibiotic, your thumb will probably be well in a day or two. It's relatively simple to care for an infected thumb, but caring for your worn-out body, mind, and spirit can be trickier. You may know you need to do something but feel too tired or frustrated to do anything at all.
I hope you'll find some simple tried-and-true strategies that can keep you moving in the right direction in the next few steps!
Most worn-out women struggle with expectations. Do you ever feel like an octopus is attacking you, its arms grabbing and pulling? Everyone seems to want more and more. They want you to do things better and bigger and quicker, all the while with a smile on your face. Everywhere you turn, there's another expectation . . . until you're exhausted just thinking about it. It's too much!What can you do? The only way to stop the octopus from dragging you down is to starve it. If you take away the three foods it thrives on, the octopus will lose its power, and overwhelming expectations will lose their grip. The three foods are comparison, people pleasing, and perfectionism.
ComparisonComparing yourself to others is dangerous, especially when you are on the verge of being worn out. As your stress increases, you tend to be more self-critical. This saps your energy and kills your morale.
The cure:
The best antidote is a healthy dose of reality. You are unique, with a specific set of God-given attributes and abilities. Spend some time thinking about your positive characteristics. Then resolve to start accepting yourself, respecting yourself, and loving yourself.
People PleasingMany people, especially women, have a bad case of what has been popularly called "the disease to please" - and it's an energy-sapping malady. Nothing is inherently wrong with being nice or accomodating, unless it's for the wrong reasons. People pleasing essentially means letting other people's imagined expectations control your actions.
The cure:
It's natural to want people to like you. It's natural to want them to respect and think well of you. But if this desire drives you to be a worn-out woman, it's time to stop. Remember that your physical, emotional, and siritual health is more important than temporarily pleasing someone else.
PerfectionismPerfection deosn't exist on this planet, but that doesn't stop a lot of us from trying to acheive it! Many women believe they must be perfect, or nearly perfect, in everything they do, and they feel despair when they feel they've failed at anything.
The cure:
Admit that perfectionism is impossible. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Accept your weaknesses and failures. Set realistic and reachable goals. Aim for excellence, not perfection.
Life will always be full of expectations, your own and others'. How you respond to them will determine how worn out you become. The key, of course, is to stop letting others control you through their expectations.
by Spring Ball on October 11th, 2011
Deciding your wedding colors is one of the most important decisions you will make about your Wedding. It plays in integral part in bringing your theme and personality across when used correctly.
You can start with a favorite color and decide if it fits your theme, if it does then choose a color scheme that will be visually fulfilling. If your favorite color does not fit your theme, you might be interested to see what emotions and associations are evoked by different colors. Check out the colors and their associations listed below, and if you find that your favorite color (or a theme color that fits your wedding) seems to have a negative connotation to it do not despair. When it really comes down to it, it’s your wedding and your guests will love anything you choose.
If you feel overwhelmed and have trouble choosing colors for your wedding you can always seek the help of a professional wedding planner. This was fun! Check out all of these great colors and their meanings below!
Red: is associated with energy, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.
Light red: represents joy, sexuality, passion, sensitivity, and love.
Pink: signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.
Dark red: is associated with vigor, willpower, rage, anger, leadership, courage, longing, malice, and wrath.
Brown: suggests stability and denotes masculine qualities.
Reddish-brown: is associated with harvest and fall.
Orange: represents enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement, and stimulation.
Dark orange: can mean deceit and distrust.
Red-orange: corresponds to desire, sexual passion, pleasure, domination, aggression, and thirst for action.
Gold: evokes the feeling of prestige. The meaning of gold is illumination, wisdom, and wealth.
Yellow: is the color of sunshine. It's associated with joy, happiness, intellect, and energy.
Dark yellow: represents caution, decay, sickness, and jealousy.
Light yellow: is associated with intellect, freshness, and joy.
Green: is the color of nature. It symbolizes growth, harmony, freshness, and fertility.
Dark green: is associated with ambition, greed, and jealousy.
Yellow-green: can indicate sickness, cowardice, discord, and jealousy.
Olive green: is the traditional color of peace.
Aqua: means emotional healing and protection.
Blue: means depth and stability. It symbolizes trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, faith and truth.
Light blue: means health, healing, tranquility, and understanding.
Dark blue: means knowledge, power, integrity, and seriousness.
Purple: is associated with wisdom, dignity, independence, creativity, mystery, and magic.
Light purple: evokes romantic and nostalgic feelings.
Dark purple: evokes gloom and sad feelings. It can cause frustration.
White: is associated with light, goodness, innocence, purity, and virginity.
Black: is associated with power, elegance, formality, death, evil, and mystery.
Keep in mind, these are just the traditional means of each color. By no means does it mean that if you use one of these colors in your wedding that this is especially how they will feel. I've seen a great many weddings using dark purple and they are just gorgeous. Yellow-green, dark green, and dark orange are the same. They mean what you put into them!
Simply use this as a jumping off point, an inspiration for the kind of wedding you'd like to have! Have fun! There are so many colors and color combination for you to choose from. Enjoy yourself and surround yourself and your guests in beautiful colors!
by Glenda Adams on October 8th, 2011
With origins in the 17th century, the groom's cake is really a very old wedding tradition, somehow lost and now rediscovered for the most elegant wedding receptions. (www.jankishlapetitefleur.com)
Having a separate cake for the groom dates back to Victorian times in England. The cake originally was meant to be a gift from the bride to the groom. To share in the romance of the wedding couple, it was intended for single women who attended the reception to take with them. Legend has it that if they take a slice of the groom's cake and place it beneath their pillows at bedtime, they will dream of their future husbands!!
The notion of sleeping with a piece of cake underneath one's pillow dates back as far as the 17th century and quite probably forms the basis for today's tradition of giving cake as a "gift." In the late 18th century this notion led to the curious tradition in which brides would pass tiny crumbs of cake through their rings and then distribute them to guests who could, in turn, place them under their pillows. The custom was curtailed when brides began to get superstitious about taking their rings off after the ceremony. (www.hudsonvalleyweddings.com) Can you imagine if that was still done today?!!
Once the groom’s cake made it to the U.S., it was mainly a southern tradition for the cake to be served at the reception but on a separate table from the wedding cake. The origin of this tradition is unclear. Some believe it was to be served by the groom, with a glass of wine, to the bridesmaids. Others believe it was to be saved and subsequently shared with friends after the honeymoon. The tradition seems to have survived primarily in the South. (www.hudsonvalleyweddings.com)
In years passed it was mostly chocolate or a dark fruit cake, but now that has changed and you will find it in a variety of flavors, colors or shapes. Since so much of the wedding and reception is focused on the bride and her dream day, current trends have the groom’s cake a symbol of what is really special to him. Some are themed with his favorite professional or college sports teams, or you may see another themed after his hobby like golf or his favorite musical instrument. You may also see it themed after his profession like a Web Designer or Firefighter, and if he’s a grillmaster, a cake related to that would be more appropriate.
Maybe he has a 1970 Ford Mustang he washes every Saturday, even though he never drives it!!! I've seen it all. Now that cake decorating is an art in itself, you will see all types of unique themed groom’s cakes, which really becomes a conversation piece at the rehearsal dinner or reception! Of course the groom will love it because this is something that really represents his interests, everyone will be talking about it and he’ll really appreciate how you thought of him in such a delicious way!
In the past, groom's cakes, which were separate from the bride's cakes, were either cut and wrapped to be eaten after the reception, or they were served from another table for those guests who preferred a darker, richer cake. Today, the groom's cake is still sliced and served separately, usually by a member of the wait staff. Some couples prefer to offer the groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner, a fitting time since the groom's family hosts the occasion. (www.jankishlapetitefleur.com)
Whatever time or theme you choose for the groom's cake, it is a charming tradition that adds a distinctive, personal touch to your wedding festivities while honoring the man you just married. So go ahead, celebrate him in a special way, with a groom’s cake! That will really be the icing on the cake!!
You can find more ideas on groom's cakes at any of the links above or even at www.marthastewartweddings.com, www.online-weddings.com, or even at www.getmarried.com.
Have fun researching!
by Christina Claxton on October 7th, 2011
When it comes to modern day weddings, brides are all about finding the newest trend and fashion. We are on a constant search to try something new, daring, and different. Weddings are held in venues all over from barns to airplane hangers, vineyards, and botanical gardens to old train stations and your favorite roof top. They include themes from traditional or Boho to the ever so popular Halloween or New Years wedding. Traditions are set aside as new and more inventive ideas are added into the ceremony, vows, progression and reception. So why is it that the typical bride feels bound by the one, maybe two (if they match), accent colors?
Color is a timeless theme that never goes out of style. There is something to be said about a breathtaking pattern paired with a vibrant mix of hues to really express your personal style! Everyone is different, so why are we so stuck to the single color staple? By opening up our minds we can discover a wide variety of ways to add our own little touch to pieces here and there. Rich chromatic mixtures of a bouquet can transfer smoothly to the rest of the wedding palette in a way that is sure to enlighten the senses. A variety of color does not have to break the bank either. Consider the following ways of adding a spice of color to your wedding with out setting your wallet on fire.
1. Refreshing Florals:Waves of color can always start in your's and your bridesmaid's bouquets. Try mixing and matching different flowers of a plethora of sizes within the same color palette. Another tactic would be to stick with the weddings primary hues and add a bright yellow, purple, or pink to add some pop! Don’t be afraid to approach bridesmaid's dresses in the same fashion with the addition of textures and accessories.
2. The Menu:
Why not add a touch of food dye to any welcome drink or cupcake? Even some of the dinner items can be focused towards the bride's chosen colors. Consider swapping out a variety of vegetables to fit the color scheme to make the plate look more aesthetically pleasing. Or play with the napkins or table coverings. Adding in more than one lighting or candle color can blend nicely when they fall within the same color family.
3. Don’t Forget the Paperwork:Not all paper work is bad! Invitations, Save the Dates, Programs, and even Menus can all be spiced up by adding an extra hue here or there. Using a dark color to make the names in a bright color stand out. To make a typical invitation seem more intricate by adding a back ground color to show depth. A variety of color can be accomplished with different paper styles, stamps, ribbons, glitter, etc. Colors are endless so the possibility to be creative and make your unique style stand out is also endless.
Consider checking out the color wheel for some guidance. For a more romantic feel, pick colors that are close to each other on the wheel, these are typically within the same color family and will be sure to blend well and create a comprehensive look.
Want to be a little more daring and edgy? Try picking colors that are opposite of each other on the color wheel. These are referred to as complimentary colors and are used to make one another stand out better and brighter. Each of the colors have a hidden intrinsic feeling that you might want to keep in mind while choosing your color scheme.
Want to be a little more daring and edgy? Try picking colors that are opposite of each other on the color wheel. These are referred to as complimentary colors and are used to make one another stand out better and brighter. Each of the colors have a hidden intrinsic feeling that you might want to keep in mind while choosing your color scheme.
White: Purification, Truth and PeaceGreen: Luck, Fertility and Calmness
Light Blue: Tranquility and Patience
Dark Blue: Growth, Strength and Passion
Purple: Power, Royalty and Strength
Pink: Soothing, Love and Comfort
Red: Strength, Courage and Passion
Orange: Stimulation and Attractiveness
Yellow: Confidence, Independence and Happiness
Brown: Serenity, Bold and Confidence
Have fun playing with different styles, patterns, and textures! Don’t be afraid to test out metallics and bold sequences. You will never know if you don’t try. Try getting some paint chip samples from your local home improvement store, to play with the wide variety of hues.
Remember there is not just one shade of green, blue, yellow and so one so be adventurous. If you are stuck and don’t even know where to begin, try looking around your house, your favorite blanket, or a wall that speaks to you. You have surrounded yourself with things for a reason. Chances are they tell stories about your personality.
by Amanda Occhiuto on October 5th, 2011
As I visited the ocean one hot weekend this summer, I witnessed several brides and grooms "jumping the broom" and doing their nuptials right there on the beach, and why not? What a perfect scene Mother Nature has provided us for joining two lives together for eternity. In a sense, one could liken a beach wedding to birth, the creation of a new life, and with the presence of water, it makes even more sense to use the "birth" analogy. With so much to offer romantically, such as breath taking views, the natural backdrop of the sandy beaches, and for those on the west coast, even a possible sunset, why would a bride ask for anything more?
Truth be told, weddings on the beach aren't always a piece of cake to plan. With weather to factor in, and winds, there are some ideas that work for many other locations that just don't work as well for beachside weddings. However there are also so many positives to consider. For example, why not make the event unique by adding your favorite seafood dishes to the dinner menu? Perhaps you would like to wear a more beach inspired wardrobe instead of the typical formal wedding attire? Let us not forget the plethora of beach decor ideas that come along with choosing a beachside wedding and theme. Check out this link to get some great ideas for inexpensive beach wedding favor ideas! One thing is certain, no matter how you choose to approach a beach wedding, it is sure to be a hit.
While beach wedding attire can be as formal or as casual as you want, you should try to stick with simple style apparel instead of anything that is overwhelming and overdone. The traditional Cinderella gown with layers of satin and tulle covered with lace will not be as comfortable as the lighter, flowing dress options. Look for a dress that is elegant, but will keep you cool and comfortable. It should go without saying to also avoid dresses with a long train. Anything that is breathable, shorter and makes the wedding participants more comfortable will certainly work well for this special occasion. Beach Comber Bride has a great selection of beach wedding dresses for you to choose from.
Just keep in mind that even though you are going for a more comfortable look, you still can be fashionable and princess-like for this event. While some brides prefer to wear shoes, lots of beach brides choose to forgo shoes completely and simply go barefoot. Others choose the elegance of barefoot sandals. If you do choose to wear shoes, keep in mind that anything with a sharp heel will sink easily into the sand and will trip you up. As with most weddings, it is much easier to plan the groom's clothing because they can opt to wearing either a traditional tuxedo if the wedding is to be more formal, or if you are going more casual, tan pants and a white shirt. They could even go for the casually tailored suit look.
When you consider all of your beach wedding ideas, make sure to consider your hairstyle. Let's face it, the seaside can play havoc with your hair, and thus finding a suitable beach wedding hairstyle can be a challenge! Whether or not it will be windy on your wedding day, you should prepare yourself in choosing a beach wedding hairdo that will look good after the wind and sea spray has been through it. This does by no means dictate that you should pin all your tresses as tightly as possible and use up an entire bottle of hairspray to keep it all in place. A seaside wedding lends itself to more casual hairstyles, and conjures up images of cascading curls and half up-do's. If you want to wear your hair up then go for a loose, slightly messy look for a casual feel.
Can't make a decision? Are you undecided about whether a destination wedding on the beach is right for you? To find out, read "Is a Beach Wedding right for you?" This article will help you figure out what is important and whether you want to continue with planning a beach wedding.
If you are set on having a beach wedding, start with this site for more ideas and resources for your beach wedding planning. Of course, don't forget the importance of hiring a wedding planner to assist with tackling the many different important details that choosing to have a beach wedding will bring!
If you are set on having a beach wedding, start with this site for more ideas and resources for your beach wedding planning. Of course, don't forget the importance of hiring a wedding planner to assist with tackling the many different important details that choosing to have a beach wedding will bring!
by Victoria Kelly on September 29th, 2011
We've been getting requests for a while now to host a contest offering free wedding planning to a deserving bride. Well we are finally giving you what you've been asking for!
Here's the deal: If you sign a contract with a consultant of A Piece of Cake Wedding Design
during the next few months of October, November and December this year, you
will automatically be entered to win FREE wedding planning services for your
wedding!
Here's the deal: If you sign a contract with a consultant of A Piece of Cake Wedding Design
during the next few months of October, November and December this year, you
will automatically be entered to win FREE wedding planning services for your
wedding!
The RULES:1) You must sign a contract between October 1, 2011 and December 30, 2011 to be entered into the contest.
2) You must be a legal resident of the United States and be able to provide a valid email address and phone number.
3) Your wedding must take place within the United States, but can be scheduled for anytime this year or next year.
4) The winner will be chosen within (7) seven days of the new year, and will be alerted through email at the address given on the consulting contract, as well as the company blog.5) The client(s) and consultant involved will continue to be held resposponsible for all clauses and limitations written in the consulting contract.
6) Winning constitutes permission to use Winner’s name, images, hometown, likeness, prize won, and photograph (all at Sponsor’s discretion) for future advertising, publicity in any and all media now or hereafter devised throughout the world in perpetuity, without additional compensation, notification or permission.
7) Chosen winner of the contest may choose to withdraw from the contest and all prizes at any time and continue with their regular paid services.8) Failure to comply with these Official Rules may result in disqualification from the Contest.
9) Contestant agrees that any and all disputes and causes of action arising out of or connected with this Contest, or any prizes awarded, shall be resolved individually, without resort to any form of class action lawsuit.
10) There must be at least (40) forty entries for the contest to begin.
Now is your chance!
Book your wedding with A Piece of Cake Wedding Design and enter to win the chance to get your planning services for free! Not only do you get your dream wedding planned within your budget your way, but you potentially get a professional wedding planner at no cost! There will just be one winner!
Maybe it will be you!
Book your wedding with A Piece of Cake Wedding Design and enter to win the chance to get your planning services for free! Not only do you get your dream wedding planned within your budget your way, but you potentially get a professional wedding planner at no cost! There will just be one winner!
Maybe it will be you!
by Ashley Williams on September 22nd, 2011
Throughout your wedding your friends and family will be there with you through it all. They will give you their time, advice, shower you with gifts, throw parties in your honor and help to create a day you will never forget. To show your appreciation, you will want to thank them in a way that will be personal to them and really touch their hearts.
One of best ways is to send them a Thank You note! Even though it seems like a very small gesture, a handwritten note is a great way to say thank you! You should send a note to each and every person who has given you anything, whetherthey gave of their time or gave you a special gift. In the note mention the gift or the contribution and why you appreciate it so much. By doing this the person know that the card was intended strictly for them.
For the special people that went the extra mile for you, be a little more creative when showing them your appreciation. Did your best friend shop endless with you walking in store after store until you found your dream dress? Treat her to a spa day for a little R&R. Did your aunt give you a beautiful wall clock that you adore? Mount it on your living room wall and take a picture of the happy couple right underneath it! You can also send a plant or bake a sweet treat to show your thanks.
There are so many ways to say “Thank You,” however you say it is your choice but this important gesture should not be overlooked. Also do not procrastinate after your wedding. Send your thank you notes within 3 weeks of receiving your gifts. Also, share this experience with your husband. It’s a sweet way to get in the habit of doing things “together.”
For more ideas on how to say thank you to the ones you love, check out weddings.about.com/od/theweddingparty/a/parentgifts.htm, http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/creative-thank-you-cards-from-the-bride-and-groom/, or even cms.montgomerycollege.edu/edu/department4.aspx?id=29041.
by Ashley Williams on September 19th, 2011
A little knowledge goes a long way when choosing the perfect engagement ring. There are so many types and different styles, so let’s start with the basics. To find a diamond that stands out from the rest, let’s go over the Four C’s of diamonds.
Cut:This is the shape of the diamond you choose. Some popular choices are round, square, pear and marquise but that all just depends on your taste. A moderately priced diamond can have a mesmerizing effect from the cut of a skilled jeweler. Choose a stone that is rated good, very good, premium or ideal.
Color:Diamond colors start at extremely rare (flawless) colorless grade D and continue through the alphabet to Z (yellow grade). The more colorless the stone the more expensive it will be. Color is a result of the composition of the diamond, and it never changes over time.
Because a colorless diamond, like a clear window, allows more light to pass through it than a colored diamond, colorless diamonds emit more sparkle and fire. (www.thediamondbuyingguide.com)
Clarity:When we speak of a diamond's clarity, we are referring to the presence of identifying characteristics on (blemishes) and within (inclusions) the stone.
Inclusions include flaws such as air bubbles, cracks, and non-diamond minerals found in the diamond. Blemishes include scratches, pits, and chips. Some blemishes occur during the cutting processes (most often at the girdle). Diamonds with no or few inclusions and blemishes are more highly valued than those with less clarity because they are rarer.
Carat: This is the weight of the diamond. The process that forms a diamond happens only in very rare circumstances, and typically the natural materials required are found only in small amounts. That means that larger diamonds are uncovered less often than smaller ones. Thus, large diamonds are rare and have a greater value per carat. For that reason, the price of a diamond rises exponentially to its size. (www.thediamondbuyingguide.com) Also see http://www.ajediam.com/Sizes-of-Diamonds.html for actual carat size comparison by millimeters and centimeters.
For some people it’s the size of the “rock” that matters, for others it’s the cut, the clarity or just the simple but priceless love that an engagement ring represents. Whatever the case may be, here are a few more fun facts to help you find the perfect ring.
Look at the diamond in natural light. Stores tend to have “extra lighting” that can play up the brilliance of a ring. It will look a lot different in the florescent light of a room, daylight, and the toned-down, yellow-tinted light bulbs in your living room.Ask the jeweler for a diamond certification to ensure you’re not purchasing a “blood diamond,” also called a conflict diamond, converted diamond, hot diamond, or war diamond. These terms refer to a diamond mined in a war zone and sold to finance an insurgency, invading army's war efforts, or a warlord's activity, usually in Africa where around two-thirds of the world's diamonds are extracted.
Most grooms traditionally use one to three months of their salary to buy an engagement ring. This is not a firm rule. Make sure you buy what’s comfortable for you.
Always buy an engagement ring in person to ensure you are getting exactly what you pay for. Just a friendly reminder though… the size of the diamond doesn’t measure the happiness and the love in a marriage.
The choices of rings do not stop here…Stay tuned for part II of How to Choose the Perfect Ring!!
The choices of rings do not stop here…Stay tuned for part II of How to Choose the Perfect Ring!!
by Victoria Kelly on September 13th, 2011
Help A Piece of Cake Wedding Design with an updated logo!
To participate visit http://99designs.com/logo-design/contests/help-piece-cake-wedding-design-updated-logo-96394for a $200 prize!!
The design contest is now up and running and will be accepting entries until 10:53am PST on Tuesday, September 20th, 2011.
The design contest is now up and running and will be accepting entries until 10:53am PST on Tuesday, September 20th, 2011.
Not that there's anything wrong with our current logo or advertising, but we are always looking to stay up to date and in front of our audience! We want our brides to see that we understand what they need and are here to help.We have made it a point in the years we've been in business to reflect a comforting, romantic image in all of our communication. Not only are we here as planners, to make sure that our couples can leave all of their weding details to us and have a stress-free engagment period and wedding day, but we are also here for support, a shoulder to cry on, a mediator for any family concerns that may come up, and the one person that you know will be excited with you, sympathetic to your needs, and concerned with everyone enjoying the wedding day!
Ideally we want to keep that same image in our company while displaying a creative, unique, and personal logo that makes us stand out from our competition. We want something that makes people think of us when they see it. We want positive branding that leaves couples with the peace of mind that everything will be taken care of if they put their dreams in our hands.If this is your forte, or you are interested in stretching your creative muscles, please participate! You have the opportunity to win a monetary prize of $200 at the end of the week long contest!
Jump in and act now!! To participate visit http://99designs.com/logo-design/contests/help-piece-cake-wedding-design-updated-logo-96394.
The design contest is now up and running on 999designs.com and will be accepting entries until 10:53am PST on Tuesday, September 20th, 2011.Be a part of the future, of innovation and our future success! I can't wait to see what you come up with! Thanks!
by Victoria Kelly on September 10th, 2011
As society changes and more and more couple are living together before getting married (47% actually), couples are starting families a little bit different and some of the old rules don’t apply anymore. Yes, the world is changing, and families are being redefined, and it’s been a long time since most of us have used the term “out of wedlock” with any real sense of outrage.
There’s no need to hide your gloriously pregnant belly! We've come a long way from the days when pregnant brides accepted a quiet, civil ceremony so that no one could see "her condition," and we're thankfully done with bridesmaids stepping out of the bridal party so as not to be "the pregnant one." In fact, designers are definitely taking note of pregnant bellies when designing wedding dresses nowadays, and there are some really beautiful offerings out there for those women expecting wonderful bundles of joy shortly after the wedding day.
There’s no need to hide your gloriously pregnant belly! We've come a long way from the days when pregnant brides accepted a quiet, civil ceremony so that no one could see "her condition," and we're thankfully done with bridesmaids stepping out of the bridal party so as not to be "the pregnant one." In fact, designers are definitely taking note of pregnant bellies when designing wedding dresses nowadays, and there are some really beautiful offerings out there for those women expecting wonderful bundles of joy shortly after the wedding day.
What better day to be alive, and gorgeous and healthy than on your wedding day! What’s more, you’ve got not just one exciting event happening in your life, but you get to share than moment with a little bundle of joy on his or her way! There’s no reason to change the way you plan your wedding short of keeping the due date in mind and keeping your stress levels low. http://www.wikihow.com/Enjoy-Your-Wedding-as-a-Pregnant-Bride has some great advice for enjoying your wedding planning!
Laurie Dent was a 38 year old woman that found out she was pregnant after the proposal and a date was set. She was nervous about what people would think and about how she would find a dress, but by the end of the amazing wedding she had planned, she said that she had “a perfect wedding day.” Yes, she was nearly nine months along, and no, she was not “a skinny bride,” but “by that point I had worked through all my vanity issues, and at the end of the day realized I was getting married to the man I loved, and I was going to have a baby. What could be better than that?”Particularly when you look curvy and stunning in a fitted strapless white gown — one you bought several sizes too big and had altered at the very last minute. “It hugged me,” she says. “I felt sexy and proud.” (Lisa Belkin, New York Times, March 2011) Check out her story at http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/03/01/a-very-pregnant-bride/.
There are so many options for pregnant women available in shops and websites all over the place now for women at every stage of their pregnancy. Websites like http://www.babiesnbellies.com/ and http://www.sheknows.com/ have tons of beautiful dresses, tips and advice for this stage of your life while getting married. They even offer tips and ideas to pregnant bridesmaids. Not only can you expect advice and bridal wear, but many websites out there for pregnancy also provide a great deal of assistance with finding gorgeous maternity wear for throughout your pregnancy and cute ways to add your little one’s arrival into your wedding. For instance, I’ve had a bride that dyed her cake according to the sex of the baby and so when they cut the cake that night, everyone got to find out what they were having! It was so precious and everyone loved it!
www.maternitybride.com and http://www.lightinthebox.com/
are also a couple of great places to look. Light in the Box
has some gorgeous looks you’ll definitely want to check out!
Maternity wedding dresses are definitely the new fashion for
women shaking things up a bit. No longer do you have to hide
or be ashamed, but you can celebrate not only you marriage
to the love if your life, but your future together with the arrival
of your little one with family and friends! Find the perfect dress
for your wedding day that will show everyone just how
beautiful you really are as you walk down the aisle to your
knight in shining armor. I bet once he sees you coming
towards him, you won’t be the only one glowing at the
wedding!
by Terri Dormire on August 24th, 2011
In the past, tradition has always had us preserve our wedding dress for our children or our grandchildren to wear on their big day. But is that the case now?
With the ever changing styles in wedding gowns, wearing our mother’s dress is quickly become a thing of the past. Many brides want new dresses to fit their personal style and preference. Not to mention, the mother and daughter may not have the same physique, so alterations can become just as costly as purchasing a new dress.
So what are brides doing with their dresses since the appeal of passing it down to the next generation is no longer there? A new tradition of “trashing the dress” is quickly on the rise. In Iowa, a bride wore her dress to the state fair. It was here she had her photographer from her wedding photographed her “trashing her dress”. In another instance the bride and groom used condiment bottles to cover each other in paint. This was a lot of fun to watch!! In Oklahoma, the bride stood there while a truck sprayed mud all over her dress. Need inspiration for your own trash the dress, visit YouTube and you can see these and many other ways to “trash the dress.”
To put a spin on things, not only are the brides trashing their dresses, but they are having it photographed and videoed as part of their wedding! What a great idea! Many brides will never wear their dress again. Nor do they plan to pass it down to their child. So why not add some fun to a day that is the most important day of your life. It surely won’t be something that your family and friends will forget anytime soon!
For those of you reading this and thinking “Oh my goodness! That is a lot of many to spend on a dress, just to trash it!” but don’t see yourself holding onto either, there are other alternatives. You can sell your dress, donate it to a local charity, or have it made into your children’s Christening gowns.
Whatever you decide to do with your dress, have fun with it. That dress is a part of the most important day of your life! Live it up! And once the traditional pictures are out of the way, don’t be afraid to trash it. Oops, I mean destroy it! It is, of course, the latest fad.
by Cherylynn Zeleznok on August 23rd, 2011
Wedding traditions are just like any other traditions. The first time you go to your fiancé’s house for their family thanksgiving celebration, although the traditional turkey is there maybe the gravy is made differently. Maybe they have mashed potatoes rather than baked potatoes. Every family has their own version of traditions that are passed down through the years. Weddings are just like that. Everyone getting married uses traditions they have seen at the weddings they have been to, weddings they have participated in, or those important to their parents. Seeing as how weddings and the accompanying traditions are as different as the couples getting married, we wanted to share some of the meanings behind each of them. This way you can choose the ones that are right for you!
So it’s time to pick your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Who will be a good fit? Will they be able to be there through every appointment? Can they be available to share your ideas and dreams? Will they be willing to take on such a big role in your special day? Although the bridal party is typically all of your best friends and possibly closest siblings there to have fun with you and help to share the day with you, back in Roman times the meaning was entirely different. In those times the groomsmen had the responsibility to surround the bride and make sure no other man from another village could come and steal the bride away from her husband. Talk about having your friend’s back! The bridesmaids were to make sure that they dressed up in attire similar to the bride in order to confuse any evil spirits and keep them from putting an evil spell on her. The friends of the bride and groom did this to make sure the bride and groom made it through their wedding day and lived happily ever after.
So why is the wedding ring worn on the fourth finger of the left hand? Traditionally it has always been said that the exchange of a ring is a symbol of everlasting love. Seeing as how every bride and groom exchange rings and place them on the other’s left hand fourth finger, no one ever questions it. Like your Mother in Law’s gravy, no one asks and everyone just eats it. The reasoning behind the specific placement of the wedding ring is very simple. They traditionally believed that the finger was a direct connection to the heart seeing as how the vein in that finger links directly to your heart.
Surprise!!! Bridal showers today are a great way to celebrate before a wedding, by showering the couple with gifts to help them start their new life together. These gifts often include items like a brand-new toaster oven, a coffee maker, gift cards, and even money for their honeymoon. The tradition of a bridal shower actually originates from Holland. When a bride’s father did not approve of the husband-to-be, he also refused to provide her with the necessary dowry for her to be married. For this reason the bride’s friends would throw her a party showering her with the dowry that the father of the bride would not provide. Seeing as how the dowry was essentially the money and property given with a bride in marriage to protect her in the case of divorce or the death of her husband, those items given to the bride by friends as described above would not have been the traditional bridal shower gifts we see today. The tradition has transformed a great deal over the years.
This is the memorable tradition of the father giving away his lovely daughter on her wedding day. We have all shed a tear while watching a father kiss his daughter for the last time before she becomes a married woman. Giving away the bride now is something very special to the bride on her big day! For a bride to know her father gives his blessing shows her that she has the support of her family as she starts her new journey. However, in the ancient times the reason for giving away the bride didn’t have the same meaning. At that time girls were actually seen as the property of their fathers until they were given in marriage to another man’s household. When the time came to hand over his lovely daughter it was an actual approved arrangement of ownership. Where is the love?
No matter what wedding traditions you decide to include in your wedding, make sure to make them your own. Feel free to do your research and include some exciting traditions from other cultures. Everyone is different and every wedding tradition will have its own meaning in your eyes but it’s good to look back and realize that there are always deeper meanings in the things that we do.
by Katie Roberts on August 6th, 2011
Call me dessert obsessed, but I call it a healthy respect for my sweet tooth. Summer’s sweet star was dessert-on-a-stick, taking the traditional popsicle to the next level with treats like pie pops and s’mores-on-a-stick. Now when I think of autumn, I think of my grandma canning apples for winter pies on the farm. Hence, autumn’s dessert fad—whether in lieu of a wedding cake, as favors, or as a sweet summary for the rehearsal dinner or bridal shower—is dessert-in-a-jar!
Strawberry Cheesecake
Brownies
Strawberry Shortcake
Ice Cream
Berry Crisp
Peach Cobbler
Cupcakes
Pie
S'Mores Cake
Eclairs
Oh, and just to top these great ideas off, here are 5 reasons why desserts in a jar are so great!
Mason jars, the smell of pie baking, friends and family gathered together—not only do these things bring back childhood memories of Grandma’s farm, but they are the essence of autumn. Bring all these things together, and you get the perfect dessert to serve at your wedding celebration this Fall. Now off to respect my sweet tooth and try some of these recipes out…
by Victoria Kelly on August 5th, 2011
You will need the following items to create your escort card display: two padded poster boards or science fair display boards, your chosen fabric/ribbon, card stock or a package of your favorite place cards, hot glue gun or rubber glue, scissors, and a stapler. You can easily purchase these materials from a craft store like Hobby Lobby or Michael’s. Some optional items might be craft scissors, colored markers, artificial flowers or stickers/décor for the board, and pins for attaching the cards.
1) Affix the two boards together using the hot glue gun. You won’t need a lot of glue. Just dot the corners and middle of each board and press them together.
2) Attach the fabric to the board by putting glue across the front of the board and laying the board face-down in the middle of the fabric. (If you are using a science fair display board, make sure to fold the sides when gluing so that you will be able to fold them once dry.) Cut the fabric from each corner of the fabric to the corresponding corner of the board so that it lies flat when folded back. Add glue to the back edges of the board and fold the fabric back onto the glue. You will then keep it in place by stapling the edges from the back with the stapler open. Do not try to staple all the way through.
3) After coming up with your guest list, you will need to print off your individual escort cards. You can get inexpensive packets of printable escort cards at Hobby Lobby or Michael’s. I would highly consider nice colors, and an attractive font for your cards. Feel free to even write them yourself if you have nice handwriting or choose someone that does.
4) Decorate the board to your fancy with the ribbon and other décor items. Maybe you want to include some artificial flowers that match your wedding colors or chosen flowers. You can make a picture or scene out of your décor and escort cards. Be creative! I have seen brides make a ceremony aisle or even reception tables out of their escort cards to mimic their ceremony or reception for the wedding. With simple scrapbooking figures, you can really make your escort board anything you’d like it to be. This will make you the highlight wedding of the year!
5) For the final step, use your push pins or decorative pins to affix your escort cards to your colorful, decorated board. If the cards are flat, just affix them from the front. You could even punch holes in them and essentially hang them from the pins. Be aware of the wind or any other factors that may affect your escort board, especially if you will have it sitting outside.
Have fun with this project and send us some of your success stories! We’d love to hear from you!
by Glenda Adams on July 29th, 2011
There's no better way to honor a bride-to-be than with a bridal shower, but where do you start? The bridal shower was originally created to help couples set up their household. Today showers often have a theme. Throw the bridal shower of a lifetime with these exciting and unique bridal shower themes including English Tea Party, Backyard BBQ, Pantry Shower, and more.
Round the ClockThis one is fun! Assign each guest a different part of the brides’ day to bring a gift for. Breakfast gifts could be: engraved coffee mugs, gourmet coffee, slippers. Lunch gifts: a music cd, magazine subscription, gift card for their favorite gourmet shop. Dinner gifts: cookbook, water goblets, board games. Dessert gifts: ice cream maker, dessert plates, wine glasses. Bedtime -bath salts, foot massager, pillows.
Pantry Shower
This idea is great for the bride who is newly out on her
own. Have guests bring items to help the couple stock
their food pantry. Some gift ideas: soups, pasta, dried
cranberries. Also have each guest write their favorite
recipe on a recipe card, and put in the couples new
recipe box, which someone also brings a gift!
Hobby Shower
This is a great idea for a bride that has been housekeeping for a while. Bring gifts that help support the bride & grooms hobby. They will absolutely love you for this! Some gift ideas: tennis racket, golf balls, pedometer to count all the miles walked getting ready for the wedding!
Gift BasketsHave each guest bring a basket full of goodies. It’s fun to see the creativity in your guests and makes for a nice gift to your guest of honor. Around the World Shower Each guest is assigned a country and must bring a gift associated with that country. For example, “Scotland” gifts could include shortbread, a plaid pillow, a CD of bagpipe tunes. Decorate with paper flags, maps, serve food from the various countries that were assigned.
English Tea PartyThis theme is popular for baby and bridal showers. Serve a variety of teas to your guests. Then see my Favorite Recipes page for some English recipes. To add some English flavor to your party have a high tea where ladies are required to wear hats and bring out your best linen: accent with fresh flowers.
Honeymoon ThemeCouples For wedding couples honeymooning in the Tropics, a luau party is always fun for all. For those honeymooning in Mexico, throw a Mexican fiesta. Make sure to include costumes and decorations to match the theme.
Backyard BBQCouples for some backyard fun, throw a barbecue party. Guests can bring gifts relating to outdoor cooking: cooking accessories, picnic basket, gourmet beer, etc. If there is a large bridal party they might pool their money and buy the couple a new grill.
Honey Do Party
Couples & guests bring gifts for the man and woman according to a
“honey to do” list. Example: man: honey do the yard work, honey do
the repairs, etc. woman: honey do the ironing, cooking, etc. We had a
lot of fun with this one. We used a wheelbarrow to put the gifts in and
used a lattice fence with ivy to put around it.
Don't be afraid to be creative! There are an endless variety of shower themes available, such as the Calendar Shower, a Shower For the Seasons, A Day of Beauty, a garden Shower, a Recipe Shower and many more. You can find tons more great ideas at STL Weddings, or even create some ideas of your own!
Remember you can tie the menu and decorations into the gift theme & most of all, make it fun!! This is a huge transition time for your bride going from being single to becoming a married woman. Show her how much she means to you and really help her celebrate this hugely important time in her life by creating a unique event just for her! For more shower theme ideas go to www.unique-bridal-shower-ideas.com.
Remember you can tie the menu and decorations into the gift theme & most of all, make it fun!! This is a huge transition time for your bride going from being single to becoming a married woman. Show her how much she means to you and really help her celebrate this hugely important time in her life by creating a unique event just for her! For more shower theme ideas go to www.unique-bridal-shower-ideas.com.
by Victoria Kelly on July 23rd, 2011
This is a great article I really wanted to share with you by Jay White with Dumb Little Man.
After many years of marriage I can honestly say that I would do it again without changing much. Well, maybe we would have spent our money a little more conservatively but as far as the decision on marriage - it was a perfect one.Unfortunately, as I consider our acquaintances and their marriages, it's clear that all marriages are not created equal. Cheating, drug addiction, financial woes, and chronic fighting surrounds us and often times we are stuck in the middle as these people come to us for advice.
Here are a handful of things that have become common themes. My assumption is that you've already talked about religion, having kids, sex, etc. If not, you really need to open up the communication.
So before you say "I Do", make sure you have at least considered these:
• Ability to CompromiseThere are subtle changes that most people can make in their lives in order to make their spouse happy. This is part of the never ending compromise phase that is critical.
When single, I'd watch football games at bars every Saturday and Sunday (and sometimes Thursday). Once married, I toned it down to one day. This is a manageable change that I was willing to make. However, had my wife insisted that I give up all sports entirely, I would have resisted and eventually resented her. That resent would have spread and ultimately influenced my overall attitude towards her.
The same is true for just about everything. The willingness of the other person to compromise today (of the lack thereof) and your reaction to it will prove to be a precedent setting event. If someone is absolutely unwilling to compromise on minor issues, you should expect the same for larger issues. Don't be shocked and appalled by it when it happens three years from now- you knew this going in and you accepted it!
• MoneyYes, we all want it but once we have it who controls it. My wife started direct depositing her paychecks into my account after 3 months of dating. I actually don't recommend that so soon but she was bad with money and she admitted it. For us, it was a matter of getting our credit into shape (we had 640 credit and back then, now its 800+) and we needed a strategy to pay off her college and my personal debt.
Once that debt was paid off and we moved into our house, I turned the finances back over to her after a crash course in on time payments and credit. I never looked back. I enjoyed the strategy part of it but not the day-to-day grind of bill paying. She actually enjoyed it because as a stay at home Mom, it gave her the insight she needed to plan for grocery purchases, clothes for the kids, etc.
So before you get hitched, what is your plan today and 5 years from now? Who is handling what?
• Who cleans the toilets?Toilets and the remainder of the housework is a constant issue. It all needs to get done and it's not the most fun. Setup a plan for this in the beginning. My suggestion is a weekly rotation - perhaps you'll come up with something different. The point of this is to set the expectation on both sides so that someone doesn't feel like a housekeeper. Chores need to be shared regardless of the work and income situation. Being a woman doesn't mean the wife has to handle at all.
• The PlanIn talking to people, it became pretty apparent that their initial goals were in line but after the kids are born and careers take off, there is a fork in the road. I agree that all plans change and there is no way to write a script for your marriage but a lot of the confusion can be removed by having a 1, 3, 6 and 9 year plan.
You should have this conversation now and then revisit it all the time. This does not mean you only review goals at these intervals. These are simply due dates.
I am often questioned as to why 1,3,6,9.
o 1 Year Plan: This one is obvious. After the wedding, where will you live, where will you eventually live. Who handles what, what is the combined income, what can we afford etc.
o At 3 years: You are no longer newlyweds and you are perhaps considering kids. Heck, you may already have a kid at this point. You need a plan for that, a plan for who works, who stays home, what type of daycare, etc. This is also around the time that your first condo or "couple's house" loses it appeal. What kind of house do we want? Where? Can we afford that? How are the schools? What is Plan B if someone gets fired? Do we know what utilities cost?
o 6 years: We have all heard of the 7 year itch. Therefore, it stands to reason that you have a plan set with a deadline of 6 years. Where do you want the marriage to be in 6 years? Communication habits, sex life, careers...everything. Talk about it now and periodically consider making adjustments based on the the success of your approach. Plans are meant to be changed.
o 9 years: Again, where do you want to the marriage to be in 9 years? Why? What will life be like? How many kids will we have by then? Are we sending them to public school? What if someone's parent dies? What is one of us becomes seriously ill?
o 1 Year Plan: This one is obvious. After the wedding, where will you live, where will you eventually live. Who handles what, what is the combined income, what can we afford etc.
o At 3 years: You are no longer newlyweds and you are perhaps considering kids. Heck, you may already have a kid at this point. You need a plan for that, a plan for who works, who stays home, what type of daycare, etc. This is also around the time that your first condo or "couple's house" loses it appeal. What kind of house do we want? Where? Can we afford that? How are the schools? What is Plan B if someone gets fired? Do we know what utilities cost?
o 6 years: We have all heard of the 7 year itch. Therefore, it stands to reason that you have a plan set with a deadline of 6 years. Where do you want the marriage to be in 6 years? Communication habits, sex life, careers...everything. Talk about it now and periodically consider making adjustments based on the the success of your approach. Plans are meant to be changed.
o 9 years: Again, where do you want to the marriage to be in 9 years? Why? What will life be like? How many kids will we have by then? Are we sending them to public school? What if someone's parent dies? What is one of us becomes seriously ill?
• HolidaysJust discuss how and where you will celebrate holidays. This is a battle for nearly everyone I know.
• Discipline
Are we spanking the kids, are we talking and coaching or are we doing both? No matter how happy you are now, if you're against physical discipline and your spouse is not, you will slowly learn to resent and dislike him/her each time a spanking is doled out. Discuss it NOW and avoid a surprise.
• Ok, Religion How important is it and how will we teach the kids?
• Communications, Cheating
I don't care how many conversations you have, no one will ever openly state that they "may cheat". A key here is to be undoubtedly sure that the precedent is set for open communication. If a wife is not happy, the FIRST action on her part should be to talk to the husband (and vice versa). The only way to do this consistently is to talk; not yell, not argue, but talk like civilized people.
If you become enraged every time your spouse tries to talk to you, you are pushing away an opportunity to fix a problem. Take time out and actually LISTEN. Marriage is not an argument or a punishment unless you make it one.
There are clearly a lot of other things to consider. Bad choices are going to be made regardless of how thorough you plan; that's life. You wouldn't go on a 1,500 mile road trip without putting some thought into it and your marriage should be thought of in the same way. By planning and talking, the aim is to minimize the possible obstacles by first identifying them and getting them out in the open before they reach a critical, war-type, level.
What do you wish you discussed or planned before tying the knot? Feel free to leave an anonymous comment - perhaps it will help others.
What do you wish you discussed or planned before tying the knot? Feel free to leave an anonymous comment - perhaps it will help others.
by Victoria Kelly on July 23rd, 2011
Excerpts taken from Top 10 In-Laws Coping Tips by Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guides, and
Before ‘I Do’ Part 3 – In-laws by Buky.
Why discuss in-laws before marriage? In-laws come with the marriage, whether you like it or not. It is like living in Texas, you do not have a choice about the sales tax, you just pay it.
When you marry, you do not only marry that person you get the entire family. You just cannot ignore that these people exist; you are going to have to form a relationship with them. If only because it makes your partner happy knowing how important they are to him. Deal with it, your partner did not fall from the sky, someone gave birth to him, loved him, nurtured him and he will not be the person that he is today without those people in his life. Just like you have parents that love and care for you, same goes for him too.
It is too important to not discuss especially for two groups of people
A – Divorcees
B – Single parents
These two groups of people I will suggest to really discuss these issues fully, because they may have had a brush with outlaws’ in-laws in their previous relationship, especially if their previous experiences were negative. They want to be very careful not to bring that bad experience over to a new relationship. In-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can also be a major problem in your marital relationship. Here are some tips to help you cope with your in-laws:
Before ‘I Do’ Part 3 – In-laws by Buky.
Why discuss in-laws before marriage? In-laws come with the marriage, whether you like it or not. It is like living in Texas, you do not have a choice about the sales tax, you just pay it.
When you marry, you do not only marry that person you get the entire family. You just cannot ignore that these people exist; you are going to have to form a relationship with them. If only because it makes your partner happy knowing how important they are to him. Deal with it, your partner did not fall from the sky, someone gave birth to him, loved him, nurtured him and he will not be the person that he is today without those people in his life. Just like you have parents that love and care for you, same goes for him too.
It is too important to not discuss especially for two groups of people
A – Divorcees
B – Single parents
These two groups of people I will suggest to really discuss these issues fully, because they may have had a brush with outlaws’ in-laws in their previous relationship, especially if their previous experiences were negative. They want to be very careful not to bring that bad experience over to a new relationship. In-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can also be a major problem in your marital relationship. Here are some tips to help you cope with your in-laws:
1. RESPECTEven if you don't think your in-laws deserve it, show respect for them anyway.
This is sometimes harder to do when there is fracas already. Respecting them will help you in the long-run. You love their son, therefore respect them. Respect their home when you visit them, mind your language when you are around them. Respect their boundaries even if you don’t understand it, understand that there is a generation gap and it seems so 1920’s. Respect that they raised your husband-to-be, so they have done something right. Dress appropriately when you visit them, keep your negative feedback to yourself, they are not your parents that you feel you are free to talk to however you like to.
2. LOYALTY
It is natural that your spouse may feel some loyalty for his/her family. It's OK as long as you don't come in second.
The parents (especially the mother) typically feel strongly connected to them and won’t let anybody knock them out of his life. You ain’t going to get mama out-of-the-way just like that, she has been No.1 and intends to stay the reigning queen whether you like it or not. You have to work with your husband in wisdom for a reversal of roles over time.
It is natural that your spouse may feel some loyalty for his/her family. It's OK as long as you don't come in second.
The parents (especially the mother) typically feel strongly connected to them and won’t let anybody knock them out of his life. You ain’t going to get mama out-of-the-way just like that, she has been No.1 and intends to stay the reigning queen whether you like it or not. You have to work with your husband in wisdom for a reversal of roles over time.
3. CRITICISMEven if you have the in-laws from hell, don't criticize them. If you spouse criticizes them, just listen. Making comments other than asking clarifying questions can create problems.
Save your energy and please don’t try and prove a point to your in-laws, invest your time in working things out with your husband to make peace.
If you find yourself having to defend yourself to them, then maybe your spouse has dropped the ball, it’s not your job to fight and defend yourself, that is for him to do. He knows his family better, he knows the best way to approach them than you and they will always forgive him.
Sometimes the young and inexperienced wife-to be doesn’t help by the way she handle matters. Coming into marriage with unrealistic expectations, thinking that after all he loves me and he should straighten his mom and family up. That just won’t cut it, remember he knows them the longest and is fiercely loyal to them. He sees them through the eyes of love, they know his weaknesses and strengths and they have been there a long time before you showed up “looking fine”. It will take time for him to see them any other way and nagging him will not get him there faster if at all.
5. FEELINGS
Conflict with the in-laws is not a good step forward but it can be resolved eventually. The best thing to do from now is to maintain dignified silence, you have probably said too much already. One of the worst things you can do is to vent your feelings and tell your In-laws how you really feel about them.
Identify and share your feelings about your family of origin with your partner.
Conflict with the in-laws is not a good step forward but it can be resolved eventually. The best thing to do from now is to maintain dignified silence, you have probably said too much already. One of the worst things you can do is to vent your feelings and tell your In-laws how you really feel about them.
Identify and share your feelings about your family of origin with your partner.
6. HEALINGIf you are having difficulties with your own family issues, it is important that you be open to healing any past injuries so you can move forward in your life with your spouse.
For the single mom coming into a new family, exercise much patience and don’t be on the defensive. Give your new family time to bond with you and your child/ren. Your spouse’ support is what is critical and you have that already or you won’t be at this stage. As much as you may want everyone to get along, your primary focus is your initial family. Ensure that the bond with you, spouse and your child/ren are good, because ultimately you all have to live together.
7. BOUNDARIES
Define and set boundaries with your in-laws concerning your feelings, thoughts and expectations about holidays, vacations, visits, time with grandchildren, financial issues, and privacy. This needs to start from the very beginning. I always counsel couples during the wedding planning period about making decisions together. Sometimes parents like to think they can still make the final decision when it comes to your lives. Make sure to make this clear with each set of parents from the very beginning. Maybe this needs to be a sit-down meeting where you or your partner tell your respective parents that you love them and still have a great deal of respect for them, but now that you are getting married, you will be making decisions with him or her from now on. Make sure you are sensitive as this is a huge transition for them as well.
Define and set boundaries with your in-laws concerning your feelings, thoughts and expectations about holidays, vacations, visits, time with grandchildren, financial issues, and privacy. This needs to start from the very beginning. I always counsel couples during the wedding planning period about making decisions together. Sometimes parents like to think they can still make the final decision when it comes to your lives. Make sure to make this clear with each set of parents from the very beginning. Maybe this needs to be a sit-down meeting where you or your partner tell your respective parents that you love them and still have a great deal of respect for them, but now that you are getting married, you will be making decisions with him or her from now on. Make sure you are sensitive as this is a huge transition for them as well.
8. SAYING NOKnow when you have had enough. Come to an understanding ahead of time knowing that you and your partner may know and have a tolerance to your own parents, but the other person may need smaller doses before the transition is complete. Have a password if necessary so that your spouse understands when it is time to end the visit with your in-laws. If he or she gives you the password, be sensitive to their needs and know that this time will increase over time. I know they will appreciate your understanding.
9. CARE GIVING
As your in-laws and parents age, it is important that you discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues. Find out their expectations about their care in case they cannot provide for themselves in their later years.
As your in-laws and parents age, it is important that you discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues. Find out their expectations about their care in case they cannot provide for themselves in their later years.
10. PRIORITYRemember to put your marriage first. You must continue to keep in front of you the ultimate goal which is two becoming one. This process will take time and you must never forget that you are on the same side.
In-laws can either help or break your marriage, it’s always good to be on their good side. Yes, you can’t please some people no matter what you do, but you can choose to walk in love and forgiveness with them. Regardless of the way they treat you. The saying that goes “keeps your friends close and your enemy closer” is true, treat your in-laws with kid cloves and be respectful.
As the incoming daughter, give the new family a chance, relationships will not blossom overnight. Marriage is not a race but a marathon, don’t rush in expecting to be best friends, give it some time. It will take some time for roles to change, be patient and you will enjoy your new family in time to come.
You may also be interested in….
http://bukville.com/2010/04/15/before-1-do-questions-part-1/
http://bukville.com/2010/04/20/before-i-do-part-2-sex/
As the incoming daughter, give the new family a chance, relationships will not blossom overnight. Marriage is not a race but a marathon, don’t rush in expecting to be best friends, give it some time. It will take some time for roles to change, be patient and you will enjoy your new family in time to come.
You may also be interested in….
http://bukville.com/2010/04/15/before-1-do-questions-part-1/
http://bukville.com/2010/04/20/before-i-do-part-2-sex/
by Cinde Anderson on July 13th, 2011
Whether you intend to incorporate your loving pets into your wedding or if you just need to know that they will be tended to during your joyous event, below are a few guidelines that experts have found extremely helpful when it comes to having your pets at the wedding. Top 5 tips for pets that are included or are to be a part of your wedding:
• Make sure all of the venues, churches and transportation companies allow pets. • If you are have custom attire made for your pet that you have it ready to go at your house at least two weeks prior to the wedding to make sure it fits.
• A week before the wedding you will want to make sure your pet is professionally groomed for the occasion.
• Be prepared to share the spotlight with your beloved, they can steal the show if you are not careful.
• It’s a good idea to assign a person to be the ‘pet attendant’ during the wedding and always have a backup plan for the unexpected ‘potty’ break.
As a side note, do not forget the pets that stay home during the wedding. Make sure you don’t neglect your faithful pet. They might get a little out-of-sorts with so much excitement around you and the house. They still need your attention so build in time for them too. On your wedding day consider hiring a neighbor or doggie-daycare to help. You will have peace of mind knowing your pet is safe and in good hands. Consider bringing home new toy after the wedding or honeymoon.
by Katie Roberts on July 13th, 2011
The tradition of saving the top tier of the wedding cake began in England and is at least three hundred years old*... kind of the way your cake will taste on your first anniversary if it's not preserved correctly.
Here's how to keep your cake as fresh as your first bite on your wedding day (If you're the bride, pass this on to your mom, maid of honor, or another trusted friend that will do this for you while you're enjoying the bliss of your newly wed life and probably on your honeymoon)!
Here's how to keep your cake as fresh as your first bite on your wedding day (If you're the bride, pass this on to your mom, maid of honor, or another trusted friend that will do this for you while you're enjoying the bliss of your newly wed life and probably on your honeymoon)!
What you'll need:
-the original box the tier came in (ask your baker for it in advance)
-plastic cling wrap (NOT ALUMINUM FOIL!)
-a large freezer bag
-a Sharpie
-ribbon that was used or is similar to what was used in the wedding
1) Remove the cake from the box and remove all decorations, including sugar flowers, from the top tier of the cake.
2) Place the cake in the freezer at least an hour or two to set the icing.
3) Wrap the cake snugly with plastic cling wrap, then do another layer going the opposite way. Repeat until you have 4 or 5 layers.
4) Place in a large freezer bag, letting out all of the air.
5) Put the cake back into the original box, then wrap the box in a sheet of plastic wrap. Then wrap in another sheet of plastic wrap the opposite direction; repeat until you have 4 or 5 layers.6) With a Sharpie, write the following directions on it for preparing the cake for eating in a year:
"Remove the box and all plastic wrap. Place on plate with a bowl over it or in a covered cake dish. "Thaw in the refrigerator for 48 hours, then thaw at room temperature for another two or three hours before eating."
7) Tie a ribbon from the wedding around the box so that it will be unmistakable with anything else.
8) Place in a freezer where it can stay for the entire first year. The cake will stay best if it is never removed from the freezer until it's ready to be thawed completely and eaten.
At first glance, this looks like overkill, but as the saying goes, better safe than sorry! If you absolutely don't want to do this, opt for an easier option: take a picture of your cake to a baker and have them recreate the top of your cake for a truly fresh first anniversary cake.
Happy anniversary, happy couple, and enjoy your cake!
*http://weddingcakecreations.com/the-wedding-cake-through-history.html
Happy anniversary, happy couple, and enjoy your cake!
*http://weddingcakecreations.com/the-wedding-cake-through-history.html
by Victoria Kelly on July 5th, 2011
A Wedding Channel article by Jaimie Dalessio
From last-minute dropouts to battling friends, here's how to survive the most common bridesmaid debacles.
From last-minute dropouts to battling friends, here's how to survive the most common bridesmaid debacles.
Disaster: She doesn’t care.The deal: All-night DIY sessions are supposed to be fun, right? Well, kind of. But don't forget, she still may have plans on Saturday night that don't involve stuffing favor bags. To many bridesmaids, helping with planning is part of the fun and something they're totally up for doing -- granted you keep your sanity and a sunny attitude. Every once in a while, though, you'll get the attendant who wants nothing to do with early morning bridal salon runs and trips to the florist, and it can ruin the fun for you or, worse, for the other bridesmaids.
The solution: Explain how much it would mean to you, not just because you have 148 mint tins to fill, but because you want to spend time with her. And if she's too busy to come to every single appointment (and she will be), that's okay. Remember she has a job and a life and things to do besides worry about your wedding.
Disaster: She hates your guy.
The deal: Your bridesmaid can't stand to be in the same room as your groom, and that's a problem if you need them both at the altar.
The solution: We're going to trust you and assume she's wrong about him. This person loves you or else she wouldn't have agreed to be in the wedding party at all. The bridesmaid needs to back off -- you're getting married to him. She's not going to change that by acting like an A-hole and making you miserable. Maybe she shouldn't be up there at the altar with you, and you should tell her that the choice is hers -- be civil or take a seat with the other guests.
The deal: Your bridesmaid can't stand to be in the same room as your groom, and that's a problem if you need them both at the altar.
The solution: We're going to trust you and assume she's wrong about him. This person loves you or else she wouldn't have agreed to be in the wedding party at all. The bridesmaid needs to back off -- you're getting married to him. She's not going to change that by acting like an A-hole and making you miserable. Maybe she shouldn't be up there at the altar with you, and you should tell her that the choice is hers -- be civil or take a seat with the other guests.
Disaster: She hates your other bridesmaids.The deal: This trouble-causing bridesmaid can't seem to play nice with the others in the group, resulting in awkward situations, fed-up friends and fights.
The solution: Put her in check. Whatever her issue is with one or all of your bridesmaids, she needs to tuck it away until after the wedding. Your bridesmaids are likely a mix of friends from different parts of your life, many of whom have never met each other, so this loose cannon may just need a little TLC to feel connected with the others.
Disaster: She hooked up with a groomsman. It didn't work out.
The deal: It was after a prewedding barbecue, and they'd been eyeing each other since your groups of friends merged way back when you and your groom first hit it off. But the love affair was short-lived. Now they're super-awkward around each other, and he's bringing his new girlfriend to the wedding.
The solution: Be a good friend and get your girl a hot date to bring to the wedding so she's got someone to talk to (and ogle over) when her path crosses with the groomsman who shall not be mentioned. If she's being a baby about seeing him at the wedding, remind her she's the one who thought making out with him was a good idea in the first place.
The deal: It was after a prewedding barbecue, and they'd been eyeing each other since your groups of friends merged way back when you and your groom first hit it off. But the love affair was short-lived. Now they're super-awkward around each other, and he's bringing his new girlfriend to the wedding.
The solution: Be a good friend and get your girl a hot date to bring to the wedding so she's got someone to talk to (and ogle over) when her path crosses with the groomsman who shall not be mentioned. If she's being a baby about seeing him at the wedding, remind her she's the one who thought making out with him was a good idea in the first place.
Disaster: She never ordered her dress.The deal: You sent them links, fabric swatches and style numbers, but still -- one bridesmaid ended up never buying the dress.
The solution: Dump her! She really forgot to order her dress? She's out, unless she can fix things herself -- i.e., rush-order the dress and deal with the extra charges. Note that if you happened to go with a general color palette or theme rather than a specific dress, it should be much easier for her to quickly find something suitable before the wedding.
Disaster: She owes you money.
The deal: You put her hotel room on your credit card because you were booking all of the rooms, and this bridesmaid has made no mention of it since.
The solution: Let's face it: You have a lot of bills to pay right now, so getting this money is important. At the same time, it's money spent on your wedding, so be gentle. Just bring it up next time you see her. Even if you're not the confrontational type, this is definitely something you'll want to do in person, as she could take it the wrong way if it's over the phone or email. Say something like, "So I'm finishing up all the bills and paperwork, and I could really use that X amount I put down for the hotel. Can you write up a check?" She'll probably say she totally forgot. Problem solved!
The deal: You put her hotel room on your credit card because you were booking all of the rooms, and this bridesmaid has made no mention of it since.
The solution: Let's face it: You have a lot of bills to pay right now, so getting this money is important. At the same time, it's money spent on your wedding, so be gentle. Just bring it up next time you see her. Even if you're not the confrontational type, this is definitely something you'll want to do in person, as she could take it the wrong way if it's over the phone or email. Say something like, "So I'm finishing up all the bills and paperwork, and I could really use that X amount I put down for the hotel. Can you write up a check?" She'll probably say she totally forgot. Problem solved!
Disaster: She's a bridesmaid-zilla.The deal: You're supposed to be the demanding one -- not your bridesmaid. If she cares more about where she falls in the order of girls walking down the aisle or giving toasts, you have a problem. And that long list of guests she'd like you to invite isn't okay either.
The solution: Tell her like it is. When it comes to the order of toasts, just explain that you want your sister to go first or that you think hers would be so much funnier after so-and-so goes. (Stroking the ego always works.) If it's your best friend, she's probably been thinking about your wedding for as long as you have, so try to understand if she wants, let's say, her mom and sister to come see you two before the wedding. But a posse of 15 is a no-no.
Disaster: She went MIA.
The deal: If your phone calls and texts go unanswered, your emails get bounced back and you haven't heard from her in weeks, your bridesmaid has probably gone AWOL (sorry). If she's not reaching out to you at all, chances are she can't or doesn't want to be in the wedding.
The solution: You probably want to kick her out of the wedding in a dramatic email, but don't. Try to track her down in person, without looking too much like a stalker, just to find out if she wants to be included. Tell her it's okay if she has too many things going on, but that you just need an answer. Maybe she got a new phone and a new email address, or maybe she's just not that into you.
The deal: If your phone calls and texts go unanswered, your emails get bounced back and you haven't heard from her in weeks, your bridesmaid has probably gone AWOL (sorry). If she's not reaching out to you at all, chances are she can't or doesn't want to be in the wedding.
The solution: You probably want to kick her out of the wedding in a dramatic email, but don't. Try to track her down in person, without looking too much like a stalker, just to find out if she wants to be included. Tell her it's okay if she has too many things going on, but that you just need an answer. Maybe she got a new phone and a new email address, or maybe she's just not that into you.
Disaster: She backed out.The deal: Whether it's four months before the wedding or four weeks, it stings when someone in your bridal party says sayonara to the whole thing -- especially if it's after a fight. Luckily (sort of), the damage is more emotional than anything else.
The solution: Get over the idea that you need the same number of people standing up for each of you at the wedding. Uneven bridal parties are pretty common. In terms of the logistics, your ex-bridesmaid probably bought her own dress, but ask her to return it if you had to foot the bill. Remember to take her name out of the program and to ask your florist to subtract one bouquet from your order.
Disaster: She got engaged.
The deal: Maybe you were really excited to plan your weddings together at first, but somehow it's turned into a full-out competition a la Bride Wars.
The solution: Bring it down to earth a little bit. Maybe even rent the movie and watch it together! You're both planning pretty important days in your lives, so do what you do best and be there for each other. Sit down with her to work out some sort of compromise in terms of helping each other plan and not stepping on each other's toes.
The deal: Maybe you were really excited to plan your weddings together at first, but somehow it's turned into a full-out competition a la Bride Wars.
The solution: Bring it down to earth a little bit. Maybe even rent the movie and watch it together! You're both planning pretty important days in your lives, so do what you do best and be there for each other. Sit down with her to work out some sort of compromise in terms of helping each other plan and not stepping on each other's toes.
Whatever happens, just realize that you can handle it and you will have the day you've always wanted. Some of the smallest details usually get the biggest attention during the wedding planning phase. Just remember and focus on the fact that one YOUR day, your focus will be on your husband and nothing else. Don't let the small stuff stress you out. Enjoy yourself!
by Victoria Kelly on July 1st, 2011
Paraphrased from a great Redbook article written by Brian Alexander.
It’s possible to be happily married and just not be on the same wavelength all the time. There’s no reason to sweat it! I would be the last one to deny that there are a certain number of martial stress points. But many of them, certainly the five described below, are not worth one moment of sleep.
It’s possible to be happily married and just not be on the same wavelength all the time. There’s no reason to sweat it! I would be the last one to deny that there are a certain number of martial stress points. But many of them, certainly the five described below, are not worth one moment of sleep.
Repeating the Same Stupid ArgumentIn every marriage there’s an argument you two have so often you could tape it, play it next time the issue comes up and save yourself the energy and aggravation of loud voices and long sulks.
Maybe it’s you haranguing him about his inability to aim his dirty socks so that they at least come within striking range of the laundry hamper. Or maybe it’s him telling you, yet again, that the plates really belong on the bottom shelf of the dishwasher rather than the top shelf. The thing is no two people, however compatible, however committed to eachother, will always mesh like the gears in a fine Swiss watch.
This doesn’t change because you get married. As the years go on and you develop fresh new foibles, we’ll come up with fresh new arguments. This is natural and healthy. You are two individuals with your own thoughts and opinions. It wouldn’t work so well if this wasn’t true.
Periods of Noncommunication“Let me say this about my wife: She rarely has an unexpressed thought. I’ve learned the hard way that if she suddenly starts making like a sphinx, I’d better do some investigative reporting. Contrast this with my own recent silent funk, a three week bender of noncommunication, related to the fact that I am no longer 25 or even 30. I wanted my gloom to get lost and knew that discussing things, despite prodding from my wife, would only lengthen its stay. She, meanwhile, assumed that my silence meant that I was scanning the personal for ads” (Brian Alexander, www.redbookmag.com).
Guys I’ve polled agree that at any time they get quiet, whether because of a work crisis, a life crisis, or a period of gentle contemplation, their wives assume bags are being packed. “There are those times that I am really worried or stressed out, but I don’t want to bother or worry her with it” (Mark Kayser, a marketing executive in South Dakota). Obviously, you may have reason to question the state of your marriage if the other person never talks to you, but the occasional silence is never reason for concern.
Pursuing Different HobbiesThere was most likely a time when you watched the same shows, liked the same restaurants, and read the same books. You thought the same thoughts, inhaled and exhaled in unison, and thought that any time apart was time badly spent. But now, you have different hobbies, shop in different stores and want to watch different shows on TV.
For a lot of couples, this sort of diverging of interests is their cue to take the temperature of the relationship and consider seeking a specialist.
Would you really want to live the rest of your life with someone who stayed exactly the same their entire lives, never grew personally or pursued any new goals? Would he?
It’s all a question of degree. If the two of you never spend any time together, well, that’s something you might want to think about. It helps to remember that free time in a marriage is something that must always be negotiated. If your husband really wants that round of golf, or to go watch the football game with his buddies, or whatever, maybe he can offer you something in return like a nice lunch the next day or something. It shouldn’t have to be either or in a relationship. Each person should be allowed to express themselves individually and together.
Turning Down SexObviously, it isn’t fair to judge every marriage or relationship the same, but let’s face it: Lust cools. It wouldn’t be a problem if our culture didn’t lead us to believe that clothing is being passionately ripped off in every household but our own. And of course, lust heats up after it cools, and then cools back down, and then heats back up. You get the point. “It does die down, but it’s never that we don’t find eachother desirable. There are always other things going on, like the fact that I don’t like my work situation or I’m in just sort of a selfish mood” (Ted Burke, a financial consultant in Los Angeles).
You have to admit, you’re not always in the mood either. Maybe you had a really late night working on schoolwork, or you’re really stressed out about work. It always helps to sit down and talk about it. I’m sure he won’t mind if you tell you you’d like to have sex with him more often.
Looking at Other Women“My wife and I both check out other people,” (Ted Burke, Los Angeles) “If we’re walking somewhere and there’s some really hot girl with big boobs and a mini, we both look at her, but it’s not an issue.” Sometimes it’s hard not to look at some of the people we see in our lives. It’s just as hard not to look at the girl leaving everything hanging out as it is not to look at those with less than desirable fashion sense. People are naturally curious. It doesn’t mean that they are considering cheating or leaving. If your husband starts cat-calling, then worry.
The fact is, marriage is a big deal, which is why these and other flash points are just so many flashes in the pan. If you’ve made it this far and decided to make a commitment to marriage, that is so much more important than whether he looks at another girl, or you put the plates on the top rack of the dishwasher. You have both most likely gone through many bad times together, and there will be many more. But now you are doing them together.
“I look at my own wife sometimes, very early in the morning, before she’s awake, when her face is still scrunched against the pillow, and I think about the (inevitable) friction that comes with two people trying to make their way in the world together. I’m reminded just how big marriage is. The truth is, I like that it’s big. I like that it’s bigger than me” (Brian Alexander).
“I look at my own wife sometimes, very early in the morning, before she’s awake, when her face is still scrunched against the pillow, and I think about the (inevitable) friction that comes with two people trying to make their way in the world together. I’m reminded just how big marriage is. The truth is, I like that it’s big. I like that it’s bigger than me” (Brian Alexander).
Comments from newlyweds about marriage from The Nest.Foreplay can be as simple as brushing our teeth. Easy breezy. --Ivyelle4
I didn't realize that my parents would pressure us to move in with my newly divorced sister. --Kelletah
An in-law 101 course would have been great. --boupie
I wish I knew how many snacks he ate. His stomach takes up a lot of our grocery list! --Blissed-Out
Your single friends have difficulty accepting that you can't go out with them late at night, dancing, drinking and tempting fate. --lvalle
Marriage is most certainly a partnership. We both had to learn, in different areas of the marriage, to give more of ourselves. --JRainer
My life is not what I thought it would be...but I like what my life is becoming! --VBallGirl102787
by Victoria Kelly on June 23rd, 2011
If there was ever a story of what a bridal consultant really does, Regina’s story tells it all. Regina was called a few days before the wedding and asked for her help. She advertises that she does weddings on a time limit, but just a few days! Wow! Here’s her story!
She started right away. They began on Thursday at Sam’s gathering provisions for the wedding including napkins, catering supplies, décor and food for the wedding. They moved on to the party supply store for balloons, linens, and all other supplies. While the bride and her family went home to gather themselves for the next couple of days, Regina pulled together all other areas of the wedding.
On Friday, the cake and flowers were ordered and arrangements were pulled together for the wedding the next day. The morning of the wedding, not only did Regina pick up the cake and flowers, but she also arrived early for the wedding to decorate and pull everything together for the wedding ceremony and reception.
Talk about a whirlwind. The couple married at an area location. The wedding was a potluck with a few store bought fruit and veggie trays for the guests. The officiant came from the military base to officiate the wedding. Dresses were purchased from JCPenny’s for the bridesmaids and flower girls. Favors were bubbles to say good-bye to the couple and heart-shaped bags full of lemon drops.When vendors couldn’t be found to step in for the wedding this weekend, Regina jumped in and took over photos for the bride and groom. With her experience in the wedding planning industry she used her creativity to take some amazing pictures. She had the bride and groom covered with her veil in a peaceful pose laying her head on his chest. She also got a close-up of the unique cake topper they chose in the foreground with the couple kissing in the background.
There were over 300 pictures taken for the couple to remember their day. What am amazing was to improvise and really create an amazing day for the bride and groom in the face of limited time and resources!
Some of her duties even included event design for the entire wedding, cutting and serving the wedding cake, creating a unique atmosphere for the ceremony from scratch, doing reception dinner dishes, and even coming up with an amazing exit for the bride and groom at the last second.
Not only is a bridal consultant there to help you stay on schedule and keep you stress free as he or she pulls all of the details together for you for your perfect wedding day, but Regina went way above and beyond for a couple rushing to pull a wedding together before the husband was deployed to Afghanistan in a week. Not only was it a gorgeous wedding, but the couple got everything they wanted and more by choosing her for their last second wedding.
Nice job Regina!!
Nice job Regina!!
by Glenda Adams on June 21st, 2011
You have gotten back from your honeymoon and you are relaxed and excited about your new life together! After all of the excitement of planning the wedding, getting married, and the amazing honeymoon you just came back from, the one thing that would really put a cherry on top would be seeing your wedding photos! Turns out you have an incredible photographer that is able to get them to you in only two weeks, but boy does that two weeks feel like two years!
They've finally arrived in the mail! The excitement builds as the two of your begin looking at your photos! Your photographer did a wonderful job capturing the love and pure excitement that was shared by everyone throughout the day. She took some beautiful pictures of all the photos that would normally be taken, you coming down the aisle with your dad, the groom's parents being seated, and your 1st dance. She also got your best friend catching the bouquet and that gorgeous blue convertible Corvette you rented for your wedding exit!
They've finally arrived in the mail! The excitement builds as the two of your begin looking at your photos! Your photographer did a wonderful job capturing the love and pure excitement that was shared by everyone throughout the day. She took some beautiful pictures of all the photos that would normally be taken, you coming down the aisle with your dad, the groom's parents being seated, and your 1st dance. She also got your best friend catching the bouquet and that gorgeous blue convertible Corvette you rented for your wedding exit!
You then notice some missed photos that you felt were “unique” and “must take,” like a picture of your beautiful shoes, that took you six months to find, peeping from under your dress and a picture of your unique wedding favors that perfectly matched the theme of your wedding. You took the time to put effort into every little detail of your wedding and it wasn’t even captured on film. What about that rose you left in remembrance of your grandmother? Or even the bright orange ties the groomsmen were wearing?
To avoid this disappointment, give your photographer a “Must Take” and “Do Not Take” Wedding Photography Checklist. That way the photographer can capture all of your “Must Take” photos and doesn’t waste time taking pictures you don’t want or that might embarrass you. Just as important as your “Must Takes” are your “Do Not Takes.” I’m sure there are tons of pictures you have in mind ahead of time that you absolutely don’t want. Many photographers want slightly more revealing getting ready pictures. Not your forte’? Make sure you let them know ahead of time. Do you know ahead of time that putting your mom and dad in the same picture will cause a great deal of conflict and upset people? These are definitely things you need to need to talk to your photographer about before the wedding. This can easily be done by looking through his or her photo books of past weddings they’ve done in your original meeting with the photographer.
Some of the best pictures you won't want to miss are:
-Your wedding dress on its hanger
-Your bridesmaids dresses lined up together
-A closeup of your bouquet and shoes
-The groom's dad helping him get ready
-Your groom's face when he first sees you walking down the aisle
-A wide shot of the ceremony space from the back
-A closeup of rings being exchanged and THE KISS!
-A wide shot of the reception area
-A full shot of the cake and table decor
-All of the little details of the wedding
Check out more at http://www.ivillage.com/ and even at http://www.realsimple.com/.
Some pictures you may want on your Do Not Take List are:
-You and your ex (your finace' and his ex)
-Any divorced couples together
-Drunk guests
-Inappropriate situations
-Accidents
-Head shots
-Angry parents or guests
-The vendors or planners
-I'm sure you can come up with your own . . . your two under your veil, your and your bridesmaids on the staircase, certain family photos, the jumping bridal party, etc. You may not be as thrilled about some of the more popular wedding photos as others may be.
-Your wedding dress on its hanger
-Your bridesmaids dresses lined up together
-A closeup of your bouquet and shoes
-The groom's dad helping him get ready
-Your groom's face when he first sees you walking down the aisle
-A wide shot of the ceremony space from the back
-A closeup of rings being exchanged and THE KISS!
-A wide shot of the reception area
-A full shot of the cake and table decor
-All of the little details of the wedding
Check out more at http://www.ivillage.com/ and even at http://www.realsimple.com/.
Some pictures you may want on your Do Not Take List are:
-You and your ex (your finace' and his ex)
-Any divorced couples together
-Drunk guests
-Inappropriate situations
-Accidents
-Head shots
-Angry parents or guests
-The vendors or planners
-I'm sure you can come up with your own . . . your two under your veil, your and your bridesmaids on the staircase, certain family photos, the jumping bridal party, etc. You may not be as thrilled about some of the more popular wedding photos as others may be.
Weddings are as unique as the two individuals that are being joined together; your wedding album should be too!! An example of a photo checklist can be found at www.weddings.about.com/, but don’t stop there. Keep your eyes open for pictures you want to put on each of these lists throughout your planning so nothing gets left off.
You can make sure you have the memories you want from this amazing day in your lives!
by Victoria Kelly on June 16th, 2011
Courtesy of TLC Weddings: First comes love, then comes marriage, and then comes the bill before the baby carriage. Weddings are a lot of great things, but cheap isn't one of them. Even a budget wedding can get out of hand due to costs you didn't anticipate. Here are 10 unexpected expenses to keep an eye out for as you prepare to say "I do."
Don't let a surprise expense ruin the most important day of your life. Here are 10 unexpected wedding expenses to save you from any unecessary surprises.
Don't let a surprise expense ruin the most important day of your life. Here are 10 unexpected wedding expenses to save you from any unecessary surprises.
10: Sales TaxWhen quoting your budget to a vendor, it's easy to forget Uncle Sam's piece of the pie. An extra 6 to 10 percent adds up quickly -- especially on bigger purchases -- and can create a cost overrun that leaves your benefactors feeling less than joyous. Make sure to check all vendors' estimates to make sure tax is included in the total.
9: Gratuities and TipsYou will most likely have several vendors working to put your wedding together. Just like tax, gratuities and tips are often not considered in the initial wedding budget. I am by no means asking you to tip your vendors after the wedding, but be aware of gratuities that are added automatically to your orignial bill.
Your caterer may tack a whopping 25 percent gratuity onto your bill for the privilege of serving their chicken skewers and manning the beef carving station. It's in the fine print, so be sure you read over your contracts and estimates carefully. According to some industry insiders, tips are generally added into the bills for the band, DJ, photographer, florist, cake delivery, hairdresser, coatroom attendants, limo driver, bartenders and servers. When booking your vendors, check for this and ask them about it. Tips should be a choice, not a requirement.
8: Gifts for the Wedding PartyThe people that accompany you down the aisle are the most special ones in your life. You've got your childhood best friend, your closest friend from college, two sisters and a sister-like cousin, and of course, your two favorite work compadres. Don't forget their escorts, the seven accompanying groomsmen in your husband-to-be's lineup. They've all dedicated a lot of time and probably a good deal of money to stand up with you on your big day, so all 14 are candidates for a lovely remembrance from you. With a reasonable attendant gift expenditure hovering around $5-$15 a person, you do the math.
Did You Know?
Like vacation rentals and golf courses, weddings have a high season that you'll pay a premium for. Plan your wedding for the off-season months of November through February, and you'll save across the board.
7: Delivery FeesOne great part about the wedding industry is its full-service feature. You can have your fairy tale setting delivered right to the doorstep of your reception hall. Sure, we'll deliver your dress from the tailor - just sign here. Tables and chairs, food and flowers, linens and glassware -- anything your heart desires will land in the right place at the right time, but you're gonna have to pay the people who make it happen. Getting everything to the reception site may not be a part of the package deal. Make sure to check your bills and ask all of your vendors for any additional delivery and set-up fees before signing.
6: PostageIf you're hoarding your Forever stamps, a regular envelope will cost you 44 cents to mail. Special envelopes however -- the kind you'll probably use to complement your fancy invitations -- get an extra surcharge. Tack on stamp costs for the RSVP envelope, and you're well over $1.00 per invitation, which doesn't even include the cost of the design and printing of the actual invite. If you want to be really thorough, remember to budget yet another stamp for thank you notes. Be creative when finding ways to save, like an RSVP postcard which is only 28 cents for postage or a Save the Date postcard and pay 28 cents for postage period.
Did You Know?
Sometimes people forget to write their name on the RSVP card before returning it to you, so spend a few extra minutes numbering the backs and keeping a corresponding list. This is a big time saver in the long run.
5: OvertimeNot all weddings end exactly on time, so make sure you know the overtime plan -- and price for each vendor.
Most fees for wedding services and venues are based on a set amount of time. Your venue, band, DJ, photographer and videographer are all likely to be on the clock, so make sure you understand exactly how long you have and plan accordingly before chicken dancing till the wee hours.
4: Bar Set-up FeesEven when you decide to take cost-cutting measures, there are still hidden fees you can incur. For example, if your venue allows you to supply your own booze for the bar to avoid their costly markup, you'll probably still end up paying a bar set-up fee or a corkage fee that can quickly eat up all your savings. The good news is they'll probably throw in the glasses free of charge. Bringing your own alcohol is the best overall cost wise, but make sure that they serve on bottle of each different type of alcohol at a time and that they will return all unused alcohol. That way, you can return unopened bottles to the store where you purchased them and at least save money on the alcohol you didn't use.
Did You Know?
The reason restaurants and other venues charge corkage a fee is because alcohol sales are a big profit line on their business plan.
3: Guest ListKeep tabs on your guest list -- it can easily spiral out of control. When your aunt's BFF comes with a husband and three children, these additions to the headcount mean more mouths to feed, more chairs to sit in, more wine to sip, more cars to park, more silverware to eat with and more glasses to drink out of.
You don't want to hurt any feelings, but the body count can add up quickly and because many of these expenses are on a per-head basis, the tab is going to reflect that. Get a number in your head, and work backward from there. If that second cousin twice removed needs to go, then so be it. If you haven't seen them in the last year, if you don't know them at all, or they don't mean anything to you, they don't need to come. If you are looking for somewhere to cut, begin with your mom's bridge club and your dad's office buddies. Your wedding should be for those people who you specifically could not imagine spending your day without.
2: Cake Cutting FeeOne of the last things you think you'll get charged for is the cutting of your cake. After all, you bought it from a separate bakery, and the cake already cost you a small fortune. The fee is really a provision for the plates and forks, and then the subsequent washing of those plates and forks. Everything costs something, right? Fees can range from 50 cents to three bucks a slice. Consider serving cupcakes instead -- they're all the rage, and no plate is required. You could even simply have your wedding planner cut the cake and save yourself the fee altogether.
Did You Know?
A great tip for saving money on your cake is to get a smaller version of the wedding showpiece cake and get a sheet cake version to serve to guests. This can be a huge savings for a big wedding, and if you have it plated in back, guests will never know the difference. You consider could even consider adding fake layers to your cake if you didn't want a "small" cake without adding to the cost.
1: Venue's FeesEven the great outdoors aren't free of charge.
It's important to read the fine print of any venue contract before setting your heart on that location. There are many additional fees associated with almost any venue, from overtime to cleaning charges, and some of these may make or break the deal. For example, that reception hall may require dripless candles that you have to purchase from them -- at $5 a pop. Or their lovely white chairs -- at $10 apiece. Some even have contracts with caterers that lock you into their menu and service options. So be sure to ask before mentally committing.
by Victoria Kelly on June 3rd, 2011
On a quiet beach at sunsetWhile this is thought of as relatively common, it is timeless in its potential for romance and a truly special moment between two people in love. A romantic walk on the beach can be used as a precursor to a quiet moment where you proclaim your love and desire to spend the rest of your life with them.
At the place where you had your first date or first kiss
Everyone remembers where they had their first kiss with their boyfriend/girlfriend and where they went on the first date. Tying the proposal to the day or event that started your journey of love is a great way to further unite and become a stronger couple, recounting where the two of you have come from. Try for more ideas at wedding.theknot.com/getting.../marriage-proposals.aspx.
Using the engagement ring as a birthday or holiday presentThis is also an idea that never loses its luster. That small ring box is very recognizable and creates a heightened sense of emotions. Variations on this proposal can be a gag gift before the ring or even a series of smaller and smaller boxes leading to the ultimate gift. The holidays will have a whole new meaning when you propose during that time.
While on vacation (perhaps Hawaii, Paris or Italy)
A beautiful location can only enhance the setting for your marriage proposal. Things to consider are the restrictions on bringing things into the country or area you are going to and not becoming removed from your partner during the vacation by preparing everything you will need for the proposal before leaving on the trip. More ideas can be found at www.diamondhelpers.com/.../romanticideas/marriage-proposal-ideas.shtml .
Sporting EventsThe jumbo-tron or an announcement when the two of you are at your favorite team's game is a great way to express your eternal love in a public venue. Make sure to know if your love will like this or not before proposing in front of a large number of people. The last thing you want is a less-than-ideal start to your married life.
Skywriting/Billboard or Newspaper Ad
Depending on your love's daily schedule, you can coordinate a very romantic proposal in their favorite reading material or in a public advertising space. You can even create your own
crossword puzzle or game that reveals your intentions for a moderate amount of money. Skywriting would be very romantic when you are strolling through the city or park. Check out www.romancestuck.com/romantic-wedding-proposal.htm for lots more ideas.
Staging a recreation of a favorite movie sceneDoes your lover have a favorite romantic movie? Do they know all the lines by heart? They may really enjoy a proposal based on their favorites. You can be in costume and recreate the surroundings of the movie scene.
Valentine's Day
Although you may not want to combine the romantic day with a proposal, many think of Valentine's Day as the ultimate chance to proclaim your love to your love. A typical Valentine's Day of dinner, chocolates and flowers can take a dramatic turn with a ring from someone down on their knee. You can find even more ideas at www.marriage-proposal-ideas.com and weddings.about.com/od/marriageproposals/.../proposalideas.htm.
At a big family gatheringIs your partner entrenched with family values and a close relationship with their family? A proposal in front of everyone at a holiday dinner or function may be the ultimate proclamation of live they will remember forever. Everyone can be in on what you plan on doing or it can be a surprise to everyone when you begin your presentation. Use your own and the family's judgement if this will be a great proposal.
Dedicate a song on the radio
Does your lover always listen to the radio at a certain time? Dedicating a song or just having a special announcement could be almost free but carry a lot of emotion. They will hear your proposal (or an intro to your personal proposal) from their favorite DJ or radio personality. It is quite a personal touch. Don't forget about proposal-ideas.blogspot.com/ and www.proposetomygirlfriend.com/ for more ideas.
Whatever you choose to do, make it unique and creative. Consider your significant other and your specific relationship. What would mean the most? Have fun!
by Victoria Kelly on June 3rd, 2011
This amazing article, written by Stephanie Padovani of The DJ Solution in Hudson Valley, New York, was so interesting, I had to share it with you!
Have you seen it yet?
Have you seen it yet?
It's the “Best Wedding Video Ever,” a parody music video of “The Time (Dirty Bit)” by the Black Eyed Peas that was filmed at the real wedding of Joya and Emre at the Terranea Resort in Rancho Palos Verdes, CA.
Not only is this an incredibly fun, cool wedding video (which may just inspire a trend of “music video” wedding videos) it went viral. This amazing video was created by filmmaker, David Robin, who was gracious enough to grant us an exclusive interview. Yes, we got to him before the Today Show.
Not only is this an incredibly fun, cool wedding video (which may just inspire a trend of “music video” wedding videos) it went viral. This amazing video was created by filmmaker, David Robin, who was gracious enough to grant us an exclusive interview. Yes, we got to him before the Today Show.
The Story of a Viral Wedding Video
The couple, Joya and Emre, really wanted to film a concept video spoof and play it at the wedding reception, but when time and resources grew short, they brainstormed the idea of creating their own “music video” starring their guests and shot right at the wedding.
Watch this incredible video here:
joya and emre | wedding music video from David Robin on Vimeo.
Naturally, this required quite a bit of planning and required building an extra hour into the wedding timeline. David worked closely with their wedding planner to ensure that the shoot was executed smoothly and with very little impact on the wedding itself. You can read more details of the wedding on June Bug.
“It was a tough, stressful shoot.” David confessed with good humor. “Not for the faint of heart. I had no idea it would go this big!”
The couple, Joya and Emre, really wanted to film a concept video spoof and play it at the wedding reception, but when time and resources grew short, they brainstormed the idea of creating their own “music video” starring their guests and shot right at the wedding.
Watch this incredible video here:
joya and emre | wedding music video from David Robin on Vimeo.
Naturally, this required quite a bit of planning and required building an extra hour into the wedding timeline. David worked closely with their wedding planner to ensure that the shoot was executed smoothly and with very little impact on the wedding itself. You can read more details of the wedding on June Bug.
“It was a tough, stressful shoot.” David confessed with good humor. “Not for the faint of heart. I had no idea it would go this big!”
The Results
What impact has this viral video had so far?
• The video on Vimeo already has 660,000 views and counting.
• It was featured on June Bug Weddings.
• It was picked up by Huffington Post.
David’s Advice for Creating a Viral Video
“Go for it!” he says. “There’s a huge element of luck. But keep going for it if it’s fun and interesting for you to do. David’s hope is that this video sets a precedent. “Most of the viral wedding videos, like the Chris Brown video, were shot by amateurs. This is the first professionally shot video I’ve seen that’s gone viral.”
So be inspired! Your wedding video or photo montage could be the next “Best Wedding Ever.”
What impact has this viral video had so far?
• The video on Vimeo already has 660,000 views and counting.
• It was featured on June Bug Weddings.
• It was picked up by Huffington Post.
David’s Advice for Creating a Viral Video
“Go for it!” he says. “There’s a huge element of luck. But keep going for it if it’s fun and interesting for you to do. David’s hope is that this video sets a precedent. “Most of the viral wedding videos, like the Chris Brown video, were shot by amateurs. This is the first professionally shot video I’ve seen that’s gone viral.”
So be inspired! Your wedding video or photo montage could be the next “Best Wedding Ever.”
by Katie Roberts on May 18th, 2011
Although I’ve never seen the study, I’m pretty sure some scientist somewhere proved that food always tastes better on a stick. Take shish kabobs, corndogs, and any kind of fondue for example. If you’ve ever been to a state fair, you might have even seen pizza on a stick! Maybe someone in the food industry has seen this study, because a new fad has arisen—dessert pops!
Those of you trying to come up with fun favors or what creative dessert to serve (be you the bride planning your weddding, the friend planning the shower, mother-in-law planning the rehearsal dinner, or someone just trying to find a fun treat)—from cake to pies and everything in between—all your dreams have come true.
Here are ten of my favorite sweets-on-a-stick!
Those of you trying to come up with fun favors or what creative dessert to serve (be you the bride planning your weddding, the friend planning the shower, mother-in-law planning the rehearsal dinner, or someone just trying to find a fun treat)—from cake to pies and everything in between—all your dreams have come true.
Here are ten of my favorite sweets-on-a-stick!
I know I'll be making a few of these ideas for my next party. They're cute, easy to make, and who can resist dessert on a stick? I eagerly await the day when a bride will use one or all of these ideas in her wedding and I'd love to hear the results! Enjoy!
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